Top 10 Ways to Deal with Kids

Top 10 Ways to Deal with Kids


Kids or children, a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him, a blessing and precious. They are totally innocent blessed and pure of heart, mind and soul. But as the years passes by and as they grow, it sometimes becomes a challenge for the parents to bring them up. All parents want to become the best parents and want their children to be the best children, but due to certain reason the kids and parent relationship is hampered and get disturbed by some small reasons that that we all take very light and small. As they grow up they experience many changes in their behavior which sometimes the parents are not able to understand because they see through their perspective. Sometimes, the parents by watching other people’s child tends to compare and limit their children into boundaries, thus compelling them to be rebellious, shrewd and disobedient towards them. Therefore, taking care of some simple, easy but important points this dealing can turn into best nurture. Here are some simple but very effective points to be taken care when you deal with your kid:

10. CONTROL YOUR ANGER BESTOW LOVE:

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Kids love when you talk to them with soft and mimic voices. When they do something wrong or something that upsets, you tell them with love that where they are wrong and what is wrong in that because sometimes kids even think what’s wrong in that even my friend does, so tell them the reason. A feeling of being loved, understood, wanted and acknowledged emerged as by far the biggest protector of your child and will never turn him rebellious.

9. CONSIDER AND UNDERSTAND WHY THEY REFUSE:

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“Drink the milk fast…..”, “no”, “Finish all the veggies” “I don’t like veggies, no I won’t have it”. These are the common tantrums thrown by the kids, and parents keep forcing them to finish the food, instead ask them, ”why they don’t like it”? “What is wrong in the veggie or any other dish”? and When they tell you the reason try and solve their problem like if they don’t like white milk or milk’s smell try to mix some good flavor or if they don’t like to eat green veggie try to stuff them in roles and sandwich which they like to eat.

8. HOLD BACK YOUR TONGUE:

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Many a times children havea typical monotonous behavior which is intolerable by parents holding back our tongue is the best a parent can do and should do in respond to their children. Their aggressive behavior towards the kids is not easily accepted by the kids, according to their understanding. Children are in a period of growth and various kinds of mental and physical development which can get hampered due to any kind of obnoxious behavior. Parents should be humble and polite in all their ways of responses and reactions given to the children that may further bring about a positive change in them.

7. KEEP A POSITIVE VIEW OF YOUR CHILD:

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Your child is not as smart as your colleague, your child is not as intelligent as the topper of their class, they may fail at many steps of their growth, don’t get disheartened nor let them get discouraged by these small lessons teach them that these failures are the stepping stones to success and facing these challenges they can grow better as a person. Always show them the positive side of everything and tell them that there is a rainbow behind every cloud. Hug them, kiss them, pat on their back and tell them you are special every day, this will mold them into lovely children.

6. SPEND TIME:

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In today scenario because of busy schedules and working parents it is very difficult for parents to sit with their kids and talk to them. Half the day kids are in school or in day care centers and half the day they are with their friends playing. Spending quality time with your children is an essential part of a healthy family. Having food with them asking them what happened in school and sharing a little bit of your day will make them feel good and happy. Take part in anything they say and ask you, attend them, when they need your attention. Never switch on the T.V. while having food.

5. BE A ROLE MODEL:

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Childhood is a crucial time, a child’s maximum growth take place till 10 years of age. This is called the rapid growth period. Whatever is been taught at this point of time remain till the end. Another very important aspect is role model children look and grow up as they can’t speak much nor do they understand big and high level things, they see around them and grow. Surrounding and the environment plays a very important role in shaping their behavior. Thus, be a role model to your child, let them look up to you, and give them no reason to look down on you. Give them a chance to take pride in you.

4. WORK ON SOCIAL SKILL:

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The surest way to promote your child’s lifelong emotional well-being is to help them to stay connected to –you, other family members, friends, neighbors, daycare providers and even pets. Help them to interact and go to everyone’s house. Let them play, be free, teach them to wish all big or small and talk to everyone may be simple things like their name, standard, school, etc. Let them participate in activities, games and any functions so that they may discover their hidden talents and open themselves up, which will help them to build up their personality as they grow.

3. USE SOME HUMOR AND POWER PLAY.

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Play fun with them, teach them things while playing and joking with them. Sometimes become like them and try to imitate them, play power games with like “push the stool””hide and search stuff”, small puzzles to solve and let them use their own brains you just be there and let them think that, “they are playing with someone.  If they  aren’t ready to brush tell them, oh, today I think I have to brush your nose and ears as the mouth is closed”. If you try to make your kids laugh, I am sure they will call you the best parents in the world.

2. HELP THEM TO BE INDEPENDENT:

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Letting them  be independent also plays a great role in shaping a child’s behavior. Let them fill their own school’s water bottle, tie their own lace, make their bags on their own. Give them the freedom to decide small things like what clothes to wear and whom to play with including choosing their friends.

1.GIVE THEM THE GIFT OF VALUES:

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Last, but not the least very important its parents who are the first teachers of the child, give them the gift of values teach them to pray daily, wish everyone they know and talk to, teach them to share their lunch box, stationary, books and small things. Giving them knowledge about the religion they belong to through short stories. Instilling in them qualities like kindness, talking with manners with all, treating everyone equal and very important teaching them the value of money, yes, obviously they are small  but they understand a great deal whatever you teach them. Thus, these small steps when kept in mind while dealing with kids can make a great difference in the behavior of your child and will give our nation glorious hero’s to remember.