Life can be so very relentlessly monotonous when you don’t have that special person in your life to make things special. Each and every individual needs to be with that person of the opposite gender to make him or her make special, who understands you, who accepts you for who you are and matches with your mindset with the perfect synchrony. Suppose you get that person! What next? If you want her to soothe you up calm you down in your stresses and love you like it’s the last day on earth then you have to revert it back to her. To make things fall at proper places you need to go out on a date with that person, know him or her better and then decide for the future. The first date can make you breathtakingly nervous as you need to present yourself perfectly before him or her and you keep anticipating what the date might lead you to. Well I would ask you to calm down first. It is absolutely unnecessary to make the first date such an ordeal with you turning out to be sweaty palmed wreck. Yes, it is absolutely important to make that first impression right that places you at an advantageous position. And trust me, you can achieve that very calmly without being nervous. Just keep calm and read the following tips that you must remember when you are going for your first date! And its generalized for both the sexes!

10. Relax

First and foremost thing you must do is relax! Just don’t overdo things in the process of being too very nervous about the date. When you are relaxed you never pretend what you are not and it is very important for you to be genuine in front of your date. Just don’t start talking in annoyingly irregular accent or too much hand movements and for that you need to relax. Don’t get caught up in the version of yourself you wish you were. It’s simple! Just relax!

9. The Outfit

The next important aspect to keep in mind is the outfit that you are going to wear. Just dress according to the place around. Let your date know about the place as well so that he or she can dress accordingly as well. Men should be preferably clean shaved, wear casuals for an outdoor date like a beach or somewhat formals if it’s a restaurant. Wear soothingly little perfume, properly set your hair and just be yourself. You know you look perfect. Just look at the mirror for the final time, produce a natural smile and go ahead!

8. Location

Yes this is one of the deciding factors of how your date is going to be. Choose you location wisely so that you can get ample time to interact with each other with all the paraphernalia around. Don’t be foolish to choose places like a movie theatre! Movie theatres are for enjoying movies not for impressing a girl you think you like! Moreover you have to get dressed accordingly as per the environment around you! So, choosing the right location is necessary!

7. Respect your date

Always show some respect to your date. After all she might very well go on and be your future soul mate. Just learn a few etiquettes like when you are dining together, know the basic ways to begin and end the process and be polite to the waiting staff. If you are letting her out of a car always open the door yourself or when you are allowing her to sit on a chair pull out one for her. Ladies should equally respect, listen and acknowledge their date’s efforts. You can soothe him down by your sweet lovely words and make him go easy.

6. Let the Man lead

Women should allow their dates to lead them. You can definitely figure out later the work division among the two genders but as of now let the male lead you. As for an example, men should always come forward to pay the bills or else if you are willing to part the bills with him then do insist. And if you really insist then go on and pay half of it, don’t play around! Usually it is wise for men to bear the bills but sharing the first date bill usually shares the happiness and increases the understanding!

5. Listen to your date

It is always wise and is a must to listen to your date. While ordering something or sharing something with each other don’t be dominant or rather very absent minded. Take your date’s opinion while ordering and make him or her feel that you are keenly listening to the words that are being shared. Don’t just go on blabbering if you see your partner listening to you. Allow him to speak as well and if you become nervous and go on speaking then be aware of it and normalize the situation by a joke. And for god’s sake keep your phone in silent mode! You can post the status update or pick the call later!

4. Gifts

You can really impress your date with your little gifts that you can take for him or her. And mark my words! “Little” gifts! It can be just a rose or a softie doll or a pot of candy or chocolates! Again don’t mess things up trying to lure your date with an expensive one! The gifts should be handy like it doesn’t bother you while you talk around!

3. Be decisive and Have Fun

Yes, that’s another important thing that you have to keep in mind. Whether you are a girl or a boy you need to have your stand on something that you are discussing. You will have situations where your date will offer you something or probably ask you something. Pondering over the fact like ‘I don’t know’ or ‘we will see’ kind of answers can be very annoying and unattractive. If there are choices offered by your date then do pick one!

2. The Conversation

What to talk on your first date? This is a brilliant question and contrarily has simple answers. Of course you need to be cautious while you choose your topics to talk around. It is wise to keep things on the skimmed off level. Just try knowing each other well with basic likes, dislikes, hobbies, profession, family etc. But don’t push too far! You have succeeding dates to cover other topics up but not on the first date! Don’t start asking about past relationships, dates and other emotional issues. And it is wise to keep work related gossips short. Try little pampering at times but don’t go beyond the lines like grabbing and pulling him or her towards you in order to be extra smart. It seems cheesy and makes you look desperate. Try cracking simple and funny jokes at times to lighten things up. Have a smile on the face and impress your date with your words!

1. Know your limits!

And finally, with everything going well you wouldn’t want it to lengthen a bit longer! Whenever you feel like going further stop yourself! Be careful not to share too much on the first date as it is just the stepping stone for further dates to come. Don’t push your date for a late night’s stay at your place (if you know what I mean)! A simple kiss could suffice if it is that necessary (which shouldn’t be). Do not lengthen the time to very much. And the most important thing never drink too much!

So, here were some basic tips for your first date! Keep calm and happy dating!